For Empty Nesters’, the very act of your children no longer present can bring on depression, sadness and the grief of loss. As women we tend to make our families, husbands and children into our projects. Everything we do is centered round doing for someone else. We invest our energy, our thoughts, actions and emotions into managing their lives or our family’s lives as a whole. This all makes perfect sense because we love them, we want the best for them, and we will give them our all.
We, more often than not, put our wants, needs, hopes and desires on hold until they become faint memories.
Now if you look at this on a purely energetic level we are literally depositing our energy outside ourselves on a consistent basis.
The lower our energy level, the more we experience the sense of depression.
When our energy is not with us, we miss it and experience sadness.
We can do something about this, starting now!
Imagine with me that you are starting with a bank account of one million pennies. Every time you created a thought about your child it would be like dropping a penny in them as if they were little, or not so little, piggy banks. Of course, they are our children and we want to do this.
Now, imagine a lifetime of raising your child(ren), all your pennies have been deposited neatly in your child leaving your bank account empty. While they are still at home the deficit does not seem so noticeable because, even though those pennies are not in your account they are still within your vicinity.
It is when the child up and moves away with the piggy bank that the loss is blatantly noticed and intensely missed.
That is the way it is with your energy. When it is not present with you, you experience a sense of longing, depression, loss, lack of zest and interest.
You focus on where your energy is, where you left it. You think of your children and experience the negative emotion associated with the experience of them not being present with you.
Believe it or not, there is a simple solution. You can begin to call your energy back by deliberately refocusing your energy. This is a very simple concept though not always easy to do. As with anything in life you have to decide it is time to take ownership over your life force energy.
Now, you may think that you are doing some sort of injustice by reclaiming your energy. Not so! In fact, it actually is a good deed.
Empty Nesters, consider the parent / child connection; you always know when something is up or off with your child because of that connection. That connection works both ways.
Think of your child looking at you within their minds, even if not consciously able to name what they know intuitively is going on with you, they sense your pain. They know you are unhappy and they know it has to do with them.
What are you exampling to them? What are you teaching them to do in spirit?
Remember when you would tell them, “Do as I say, not as I do?” The irony of this statement is, learning takes place by what is observed and felt. Learning takes place in spirit.
What if you were to show them that because you love them dearly you also want to show them by example how important it is to live life with enthusiasm through times of transition from full nest to Empty Nesters with awesome life potential.
This requires you consciously re-directing your attention away from them, as in worrying about them, or being sad because they are not with you, and putting it on you.
Here Are 5 Actions, You, As An Empty Nester Can Take To Re-Direct Your Energy Back To You and Re-Establish Your Own Self- Communication Link
1) Doing something physical, like taking a walk in a nature setting, actively paying attention to your surroundings will help you into the moment and away from thinking about everything else. 2) Savoring a deep and enjoyable breathing process while focusing on each breath will cause you to change your thoughts. The depth of your breathing is associated with the quality of your thought. The deeper the breath the more heightened thoughts experienced.
3) Taking a bath or a swim, being present and observant and savoring what you enjoy about it will bring about a sense of peace. Water is therapeutic. It represents both emotional cleansing as well as spiritual cleansing. Just the act of washing your face, hands and feet will change your energy and therefore the way you feel.
4) Remember the game, “Head, Shoulders, Knees and Toes” that you used to play with the kids? The simple act of placing your attention on different parts of your body and saying hello in an attentive way will cause your energy to come around your body and it will begin to relax and you will feel more at ease.
5) Take a few minutes to put your attention on something you really enjoy doing. Make it something simple, real and believable like riding a horse or a bicycle in a beautiful place. Do this for just a minute or two with eyes closed. You will amaze yourself at how powerful this exercise is and the effect it has on your mental and emotional state.
All of these exercises are very effective. By using these exercises you will be building an energy muscles and exercising your mind in a beneficial way. The result will be that you begin to restore your energy field and retrieve your energy bank account.
You will be setting a stellar example for your children because they will see and feel you as more at peace and loving life. This means all life, your own life as well as the life of your children.
With your restored energy you can begin to put your attention on your hopes and dreams. Begin to assess your overlooked abilities and discover your strengths and talents and how you can use them to experience the next exciting chapter of your life.
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Contributor's Note
When life transition is at hand, such as with Empty Nesters, it is vital to assess your talents and discover your strength in efforts to move forward and live a meaningful life. By discovering your strengths, you can determine how you can market you talents and provide your valuable life experience to others.
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